Just the Way You Want to Be

Article posted in: Lifestyle

Have you ever faced this situation? You tell someone whose opinion you respect a great deal, or whom you love very much, that it’s time for you to make some changes in your life. Maybe you want to lose weight, maybe you want to change your wardrobe or your hairstyle. And that person, the one you really need to have in your corner, comes back with, “But why? I think you’re perfect just the way you are.”

Tough one, huh?

Because as much as you may value that person’s opinion, and as much as that person may look at you through the eyes of unconditional love, what matters most is what you think. If you think it’s time for a change, it almost certainly is.

There could be a lot of reasons for this person to respond in such a way. First of all, it could be completely true. Love is an amazing thing when it is complete and true, and when two souls are truly wed, nothing else matters. So if you’re blessed enough to be seen that way, considered yourself lucky.

But realize also that change can be scary, not just for the person who’s going through the changes but for those around him or her. If you change, does that mean that your opinion of or feelings for the person who’s telling you you’re perfect could change? Probably not, but that could be what your friend or lover is thinking.

It could also be that, while you’re showing the courage it takes to break out of the ruts, your friend is afraid that you’re going to want him or her to change, too. And as all of us on this journey know, change can he hard, and scary.

But if it’s positive it is so, so worth it. So take the time to tell your friend why you feel the need to make these changes, how much it means to you, and how much you need his or her support. I’ll bet you’ll be happy with the answer. And that you’ll have a new partner on your journey.