“I thought you’re supposed to be on a diet?” “Should you be eating that?” “Wouldn’t you rather eat this?” “Eat something! You’re getting too skinny.” “One bite won’t kill you.”
Are you anticipating hearing things like this at your holiday meal? Every family’s got one (or seven) of them: The cynical cousin or judgmental uncle, who watches your fork’s every move and loves to weigh in on what/when/how much you’re eating.
How many times have you tried to explain yourself to these people? To attempt to rally their support by telling them that you’re reclaiming your health? To make them understand that you are trying to lose weight because you want to be the best version of you? To convince them that you’re OK with what you’re eating or that you’re allowing yourself one splurge?
The thing is, oftentimes, these people don’t want to hear what you have to say—they only want to hear what they have to say. Many of their comments are bred out of insecurity or discomfort with change. You passing on dessert might make them feel a twinge of guilt for digging in. Pointing out your small splurge might make them feel better about piling their own plate.
So say “nevermind” to the “Negative Nancy” at your dinner table! If you know you won’t get through to them, why bother trying? They don’t get it, and they don’t want to. Just smile and say “I think I’ll be OK.” You don’t need their chatter, and you definitely don’t need their approval. So dismiss them and move on to celebrating your holidays and your progress.